Dear Linda:
My 82-year-old aunt was deeply religious until the loss of her
son. She's angry that her child died before she did, and she's
retreated from anything spiritual. Do you have any ideas for getting
her back to the church she loved?
Hope
Dear Hope:
Perhaps the most difficult crisis a mother faces is the loss of a
child, regardless of their age. The emotions felt are the deepest and
most debilitating. Your aunt will need time to grieve and move through
the difficult stages that end eventually with acceptance.
Encourage her to see the doctor for a check-up as she is
probably struggling with depression. Symptoms to look for are: loss of
interest in activities, changes in appetite, weight and sleeping
patterns, irritability, feelings of sadness, hopelessness,
worthlessness or guilt.
Clinical depression (six months or more) actually changes
thinking patterns, affects perceptions, and requires some form of
treatment. Often, mothers who lose children feel like they have died as well.
Emotional support is crucial. Your aunt needs understanding and
empathy, so allow her to vent her anger and express her despair. Listen
without judgment or criticism. Friends from church could offer this
same solace and become the bridge for her return.
Offer to pray for her, then with her. Scientific studies show
that prayer is powerful
medicine—positively affecting high blood
pressure, heart attacks, headaches and anxiety. Meditative and
relaxing, prayer inhibits hormones that flow from adrenal glands in
response to stress. An attitude of prayerfulness, caring and
compassion, for the soul who needs it, sets the stage for healing.
Bring church to your aunt. Play songs of worship when you visit
and leave behind a compilation of her favorites. Invite the pastor to
come to her home. The clergy is well-trained and experienced in helping
those who suffer loss and need spiritual renewal and inner healing.
Read The Transformation of the Inner Man, The Most Comprehensive Book on Inner Healing Today, and Healing the Wounded Spirit by John and Paula Sandford. Share your insights and be patient. Your loving care will bear fruit.
Saturday, July 5, 2014
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