Honor the Mother who Sacrificed her Life to Raise You

Dear Linda:

       My aged mother raised alone six children, who are now scattered all over the world. We don't see her much but would like to do something special for Mother's Day. Have any suggestions?

In a Quandary

Dear In a Quandary:

       If people really considered it, the job description for the role of mother (on-call 24 hours a day, seven days a week for no salary or health benefits) would send most intelligent people running for the hills.

       For their constant care and self-sacrifice, Moms ask little in return—respect, appreciation and remembrance. That can't happen, though, if they're left alone. Perhaps it’s time to ask your mom how she’d feel about living (or having extended visits) with her children. If she’s interested, devise a reasonable schedule for moving her from one child to another. The honorable responsibility for her care and attention would be divided, and the benefits, particularly for grandchildren, of multi-generational living innumerable. What a gift to all.

       Consider planning a family reunion (all her children and their families) and give her a video of the event. An embroidered or calligraphic family tree and a family portrait for her wall would be valued gifts, so be sure to have a photographer present.

       Visit www.allmothersdaygifts.com, www.everythingmothersday.com and www.theholidayspot.com/mothersday (or call 800-326-6626) for a variety of lovely keepsakes and personalized gifts.

       You might also give her certificates for a day of pampering—a manicure, pedicure and hair styling at her favorite salon, and facials, wraps and massages at a spa. Then whisk her off to a theater district for a live production, dress-up dining, and a hotel stay, or to a charming cottage or quaint Bed & Breakfast for a weekend of sightseeing or scrap booking.

       If she's not able to travel long distances, take her to brunch before church, or lunch and antiquing at a tea room. Remember to buy her a corsage to wear for her special day, and that your time and attention is the most meaningful and best remembered gift.