Memorial Day

Dear Linda:

       I’ve been asked to give the eulogy for a soldier. The service will be held on Memorial Day—a holiday I think we’ve generally forgotten the meaning of. I want to honor this man and the special day as well, but I don’t know where to begin.

A Patriot

Dear Patriot:

       Once a sacred day with solemn speeches, patriotic parades, and grateful citizens who decorated the graves of fallen heroes with flags and flowers, Memorial Day’s special meaning has been obscured by the frivolity of picnics, fireworks, department store sales, and the celebration of summer’s bloom.

       Originally called Decoration Day, the commemoration began in 1866 to honor soldiers who lost their lives during the Civil War. Evolving over the next 100 years, the holiday (declared National by Congress in 1971) now honors those who died defending our country in all wars. Flags fly on every grave at Arlington National Cemetery, a wreath is laid on the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, and the President mourns the loss of brave Americans.

       Memorial services for individual servicemen and women are highly personal and vary in style depending on the family’s preferences, budget, and religious beliefs. Ask the family what else is on the program, how much time you’ll have to speak, and whether the group size attending will be large or intimate. All these variables will impact the formality and length of your speech.

       Read How to Write and Deliver A Loving Eulogy by Leo Seguin and What Shall I Say?: How to Write Eulogies by Celeste Walters. Visit www.eulogy.com and www.funeralplan.com for information and resources. Contact No Greater Love (202-783-4665) an organization commissioned by Congress to honor Memorial Day and provide programs of remembrance for families who have lost a loved one in the service.

       Include in your eulogy your desire to honor your soldier and all Americans who have paid the ultimate price to ensure our freedoms. Mention that their deaths will not be in vain so long as others remember the magnitude of their sacrifice and are truly grateful.